She had a talk with her parents in the morning. She came home in the early afternoon seemingly in a good mood. She showed me three dress shirts that she had bought for me (to wear for my new job) and I thanked her for her thoughtfulness and gave her a kiss on the cheek. She was receptive.
The rest of the day was pretty normal and we were both cordial to each other. After dinner, she talked about opening a savings account for our children and said that there were some special offers she saw for opening new accounts. She then mentioned that ahead of starting her new job, she's going to be opening a new checking account like we discussed (this was 2 months ago, and only mentioned once since. It was noted in the controlled separation agreement -- the one she has yet to type up, print out, and get notarized like she said she would).
I said, "You can if you want to, but I'm not."
She asked "Why?"
I replied, "Whatever I make will go into our family account."
By telling her this, I was hoping to make it clear that I have no intention of taking ANY action to dissolve this marriage, and that I am offering FULL transparency on my spending (no more hiding money from her).
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
