wife needs time to figure things out, need advice

[paul19510]

Mandown, I have been around the boards for a couple of years. My W left last December and our D is currently in progress. We were not intimate often during the last year of living together. She just didn't want me anymore.

I joined the boards about the same time as "Melissa". Her D is final now. Her sitch was different. They were intimate for a long time after bd. In the end it didnt matter.

The reason i mention my case and hers is that my W stopped having sex wigh me monghs before leaving while her H continued even after leaving. I think each case is unique. Personally, intimacy would have hurt me more in my case. I would have continued to feel attached and my W had made up her mind that she was gone. I think its really unique to each case oike i said. You have to be careful not to attach too much "meaning" or expectation. Things can still go wrong anyway. Good luck