Hi Nettles, thanks! My coach agrees she's noticing, and wants me to continue to be positive around her and show interest without pursuing, not be available all the time, and continue my GAL activities. I feel like it's a really tricky balance between showing interest, being available enough to have conversations/show her changes, while not pursuing. She's been really helpful in giving ideas for navigating that better.
This weekend I kept myself busy and out of sight. Replanted the garden beds in front of our house, went out with my brother and some friends Saturday night, and slept over at his house. I spent all day Sunday helping my parents move, and went out to dinner with them before heading home. I got a few texts from W, one just letting me know she made cookies and I should "totally try one when I get home", another saying how great the new plants I put in look and thanking me for all the hard work. So it does seem like she tries to re-engage when she notices me drift away.
When W came home last night she wanted to catch up and told me about her trip last week, her weekend, and asked a lot of questions about mine. I was positive and asked some questions(coach wants me to show interest, since that was one of her complaints), but kept it light, even shared a few laughs.
All that said I know she went on the trip last week with the OM, and my love tanks is very near empty at this point. I just don't know how long I can continue to live in the same house with her, let alone engage with her, and be positive when I know she's still seeing this guy.
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Me:33 W:32 T 12yrs M 3yrs House, No kids 6/16/14 BD 1+yr PA disclosed 9/1/14 Requested divorce, in house S
