I don't know I would have turned it back on OM like that. You attacking him only makes her defend him, which pushes her into the "you against me" thing you want to avoid.
Next time she baits you like that, retort with something like, "I it takes balls not to give up when things get hard. I'm committed to this marriage and our family.
BF:40 M:33 SD: 12 T: 8, never married, no kids together BD: 8/4, "I'm just done", "...too tired and burnt to try". PA confirmed 8/5 "It happened, but it's been over for almost a year".
