need to GAL

[hope224]

just wanted to update incase someone was looking for hope or having a similar sitation as mine.

H has been texting a lot more now. I try not to text him or ask him much anymore. The only time i text him is if it has something to do with the baby. I have been trying to do things that does not involve him. As far as my 180 goes, just talking to him nicely or texting as though i am happy, without any negative implications. It's just been a week or so since I last saw him.
So, he has been texting me about being intimate when he gets back. I told him I'd only be comfortable after he gets tested. I think the OW he saw briefly has gone back to her country or something. I also told him I am not comfortable doing so when he is dating someone. He told me he isnt dating anyone but he may just have been saying it. I made it clear to him that the only way i would even consider is if he has no stds and i needed to see results.
I was also really pleasant when he mentioned he went to see the OW last weekend. I told him that I hope he is happy. So, yesterday he texted me to see if I could come over and spend the weekend with him. And, i told him I was thinking of going out if he could watch the baby. He agreed and asked if I would still stay over, granted that I didnt go home with someone else. I just replied that I wasn't into that and that i'd like to find another him to which he responded saying that he felt really alone all the time and that he wanted to talk to me when he got back from out of town. I was surprised to hear that. Then he called me to talk about it a little. I kept saying i just wanted him to be happy. When we talked, he told me that he wants to just lay in bed with me, not just have sex but just lay and spoon. I was really shocked to hear this.

But, this could all be his loneliness talks. Who knows what could actually happen. He is probably having withdrawals from me.lol. But, I am waiting to see what he has to say and hoping he has good things to say. But, I also know that this could just be a temp fluke because he hasn't had any action down there. I know he is lonely but I hope he will recommit to working on or marriage. I am hopeful but I still have to apply everything that I read in the book(at least try really hard).

Hope things will go well soon.