Sorry, I did not read back through your sitch. Hopefully there is a vet floating around here that is familiar with what you are going through. I tend to think you may need to change tactics a little since there has been no talk of D or leaving.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15