Need Help before I blow a fuse.

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I have been doing a 180 for a little over a week. I have had a few failures in my 180 but everyday I am doing better. I have had some positives (very small baby steps) from my W but more or less things are the same. I am having a problem on how to be loving and at the same time "let go" or disengage. Where I keep falling down on my 180 is I still try to engage her looking for some positive feedback when I know every time I engage it reenforces the negative. It is hard to not have any communication in the house unless I start it and that is where I am failing big time. Silence is deafening and I become impatient.