Hello,

Thanks again Holdingon for talking me through the boat issue. It's making more and more sense for H to get a boat again. Like I told Holdingon, when H did have his boat he fished a lot, he spent a lot on fishing as he tournament fished. BUT he didn't drink as much and it was something for both of us to do together as there are lakes close by. And it's cheaper than a D, both financially and emotionally.

In fact, today I paid his membership fee for the FWL, for a tournamet divsion so he can fish this summer. He didn't say thank you or anything but it was something I wanted to do. He's going as a nonboater, which means we will not be getting a boat anytime soon, so maybe together we can work on this goal.

I guess my H is always going to look to hunting and fishing as his calling and that to try to change that or discourage that will spell doom for us once again. Now I know better. It was one of the things that initially drew me to him. That he had his hobbies and that would give us both a little space, since I liked to just hang out by myself and do what I wanted to do.

H did say this morning that "I'm going to have to go to OW's (said the town she lived in, not OW's name ) and get the rest of my stuff. I said have OW bring it over. H said she won't. I said have her put it in a box by her door, H said she wouldn't do that either. This is the same woman who made numerour trips over here when H moved out a few months ago. to bring H stuff he had left.

So I said I'll go with you then. H said "why don't you go and get it" I said I will if you want me to. I think maybe H should go alone and just get it over with. I don't think he really wants to go over there and deal with her.

He just left for a hockey game. I initiated a kiss and good bye and I hugged him. I think it suprised H that I hugged him and it kind of surprised me to becuase it was so natural, it just came after the kiss. I think it's because when I kiss our S we always hug, too!!! Good habit!!

Dagny: I stopped at Walmart today and bought some of those cards you were talking about and they are perfect!! Thank you so much for the idea!!

I'm heading to the casino, S is going to my brother/SIL's to hang out while I'm gone. I'll be back later tonight!!

Cathy