Yes, those posts are lost but maybe it's helpful that you try to recall what spoke to you.
Let go of the back story and just communicate with your H. Every conversation doesn't have to contain a lesson or manipulation.
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"if it's ok, I wouldn't want to put you out, if it's ok with you, maybe I should leave you two alone" craziness. I guess he's trying to be polite and respectful? right?
What's that about for you?
The question to ask is "Why does it bother me?" That's your work. His feelings are his to figure out.
Being in a R with another person, any other person, requires that we respect their feelings even when they differ with ours. Doesn't mean we feel the same but their feelings are just as true to them as our are to us.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
