Not sure what's going on with the "Read Only" announcement here, but it seems others are still posting. I suppose if this post gets lost it's no big deal.
W and I have our first MC session today. I'm trying to keep a "beginner's mind", but it's hard not imaging what it will be like and how it will go. Particularly keep thinking about what W will have to say. I'm not even sure she suggested we go because she's interested in saving/fixing our marriage...the last time we went to MC a few years ago it was so she could tell me she wanted a divorce in a controlled environment.
I'm reminding myself to go into this, at least initially, in listening mode. My goal is to listen...responding as necessary of course. But I think it would be smart to begin this process, no matter how long or short it ends up being, by hearing what W has to say rather than taking it as an opportunity to get everything off my chest. I definitely have a bit of a "thin ice" feeling.
Also, and I feel kind of bad about this, but W is going to visit her very old/invalid grandmother before our appointment today. This never puts W in the best place emotionally, and I hate to confess this but it has me worried that it may cast a pall over out session today. I know I shouldn't make that assumption...but it's hard not to.
Last edited by stumps; 09/22/1401:55 PM.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
