Hope everyone had a great weekend!
As for me, it's been really....weird. First off, my oldest D19, stayed with me Friday night. I had to pick her up because her boyfriend can't afford the gas so I met them half way. We had a fun Friday night but she also wanted to go see her mom because my W (for the first time since she left) promised to take my D19 to get some clothes. So, we met my W Saturday afternoon so they could do some shopping together. Let me tell you, my W looks really bad! She is so very thin and gaunt looking. Her dress was hanging on her because it was too big, she had an ugly look on her face. She just looked really bad.

My W actually was nice to me and was friendly although she kept her distance once again like if I touched her she might burst into flames! My D19 brought up the fact that her mom has been leaving D14 home alone late every night. She was telling me that her mom has been going to a health club and doing Zoomba a few nights a week as well as working late. She is still upset about her mom just leaving, her sister not getting to go to private school and how her mom has been acting. She, being 19, seems to be more open about how she feels about her mom and the whole D thing.

Well, today I am supposed to meet my W and pick up D14 for my week having her. I got a call from my W and she said that D14 is wanting to stay with her again this week because it's takes longer to get to school from my place (this is because my W moved 30 miles away and put her in school near her) and she didn't think this was a good idea. I was shocked that not only was my W on MY side, she was actually concerned and nice about it! At one point I told her D14 has been asking me to move closer to where her mom lives and my W was telling me how much easier living there is because it's closer to everything (we live way out in the country, mainly because my W wanted to!), how nice the area is, etc. We decided that D14 is just going to have to suck it up and get out of bed a little earlier and that's that.

Well an hour later, my D14 calls me. She said that she has to get to school early because she is having trouble in one of her classes, said it's not that she doesn't want to see me, it's just she has trouble getting up "so much earlier" (yeah, about 20 min's) and it's just this week, can she PLEASE stay at her mom's, etc. I told her that it stinks that she has to do this. I wish things were different but there's just nothing to do. She has to come with me. She was begging and I told her that it's not just up to me, her mom also must say it's OK and asked if she told her mom about going in early. We left it with I didn't think it would change but I would talk to her mom again and see what she thought about just this week.

Well, my W called back a couple hours later and asked about what we were going to do. I asked if D14 had mentioned the going in early and she said no, not until after she spoke with me on the phone. We both just decided that she needed to just come to my home as planned. She, again, was nice and friendly! That is so unusual. She did ask me if I could give her some batteries (?) as she knows that I have a bunch and she had to take some out of something of hers to give to D19. Of course she tied it to my D19 and I really don't mind. We planned on meeting when she took D19 to meet BF. Again, in the past she would have had me take her to meet BF so once again progress.

I meet my W and she was looking really bad once agin and upset. She took me aside and said that she is "feeling overwhelmed" because she had to spend $400 on D19 this weekend, had to pay $155 for D14's school lunches and payed for Dr's, etc. I stayed really calm, validated her feelings and only said I would help pay for D's lunches but I just don't know how as she set it up. She stayed NICE, unbelievable as in the past this is where she would "freak out". She said that she didn't think I could as she tied it to her and her account. I told her maybe I would just write her a check next time or something else we can work out. She actually left it at that! Now, you need to remember she is mostly upset about money for D19! I help her as much as I can but I just don't have the money right now and that is because of W leaving when she did. She knows that I'm trying my best and that I make A LOT less than her but I still do what I can.

As she was leaving she spoke to me about an event going on at D14's school, that she has off Friday and maybe she would want to stay at her house Thursday night I can get her Friday afternoon. She also said her dad is in bad shape, is back in hospital and has gained 30 lbs. from water his edema is so bad. That she may being going to visit him next weekend but isn't sure. I gave her my sympathy and said to let me know as I would keep D14 an extra night if needed. Maybe this is why she is so upset. Can't be sure and that's just some "mind reading" but could be. I do know she hasn't seen her father for the last couple weeks and I have noticed the longer she is away from him, the nicer she is to me.

Just so you know, D14 is fine now that she is home with me. Hasn't complained once about getting up early. I just think she is a bit overwhelmed by the constant going back and forth, living out of suit case, etc. As for my W, Although she hasn't once said a single word about it, I'm starting to think she may be not finding all the joy she hoped. May just be wishful thinking on my part but she sure doesn't SEEM any "happier". Of course, that doesn't mean she will slow down on destroying our family or even when it comes to the D. I really think she just feels like she couldn't stop even if she wanted at this point. She has taken things so far, her father is pushing her to keep going and she has "made up her mind" and that's that. I just am hoping that she MAY just be starting to see that she isn't going to just simply run away and magically be so very happy. Who knows. I do know that it really makes no difference in regards to what I need to do for ME and my D's. It would just be so satisfying if she did start to realize that she has been blaming all the wrong people and things for all her unhappiness!

So, that has been my weekend. Tomorrow I need to buckle down and make some money. I have a feeling W is going to be asking for money very soon!