Yes H and OW chose to do what they did. H was married, OW knew H was married. It's easier for H and OW to think it "just happened." It "just happened" because they were not thinking of anybody but themselves. They were only thinking of their own pain and trying to end that pain through each other. It worked for awhile because they were living in a dream world. And then reality came crashing in. H came home, OW is alone. And now they have to live with the consequences of their actions, the pain and the hurt that is still there, that was buried becuase they were having "fun" and now it's not fun anymore.
I think OW was living in a dream world, that maybe me H's actions were saying to OW H was staying, that things would work out. But I don't think that H ever said those words to OW.
And the boat, H did try to talk OW out of buying it. Told her not to buy it because he was there, he didn't know if he was staying there, that she should be using that money to live comfortably and to not buy the boat. But OW was determined to buy the boat.
H has said from the start to me and to her "that he didn't know what he was doing" and that is what kept me going, kept me dbing, that H was confused and that H would come back eventually. Whether I had moved on when H decided to come back, that was the big question, not if H came back.
My two cents for the day, so that's four cents so far. Let's go for more!!
