jpLove, I personally would follow Ito's advice, as it sounds like it's in line with DB principles. If you draw hard lines in the sand now, he's likely to stay away. Don't worry about what he thinks about you -- you have other, larger concerns at the moment. Take care of yourself, focus on yourself. Don't waste your energy on him. Smile, be friendly, take care of business, research what you might need to do to protect yourself (to give yourself a sense of safety). Give it time. It's been only a few months. Really practice those LRT, and GAL as much as you can. Embrace the gift of time. You don't have to solve anything right now. Let go of the urgency for clarity for the time being. You will know when you've had enough. Sending positive thoughts your way.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
