Snowballs get bigger as they roll down hill!

[sjallda]

So I went out with my family yesterday to visit my aunt in the assisted living, out to eat and to one of those big farm markets/ pumpkin patches and last to get ice cream.
I have been cleaning our house all week, organizing closets, getting rid of the clutter, as well as trying to take care of my appearance , and giving h space.
Some things I noticed. Was

H has no interest in helping me with anything inside this house, won't unclog sinks, finish projects, fold a load of laundry, feed the animals, take out any trash, nothing at all if it is inside this house.

Now if it pertains to his garage where he has slept for about two weeks, he will show ownership, keep it clean, take out the trash , but only his trash.
He will only do his laundry, and will throw anything of me or my daughters aside in a basket to wrinkle. He will go get himself fast food, but won't offer me anything.

He just sits out there aside from work watching tv, watching every football game, playing video games, drinking beer and is not interested in anything that has anything to do with me and d, the house, our lives, his pets,
If I go out there and sit for a minute he doesn't initiate any conversation, and stares through me to his tv.

N If I were to start any kind of friendly banter I usually get spoken to with anger, or he rolls his eyes at me while he tells me I do nothing but talk, I never shut up, or in a agitated tone says "get to the point" , just very rude and un-interested.

So I noticed if one of the neighbors come over to visit him, he is nice and friendly , looks at them when they talk, etc... I just feel hated.

I saw all the happy little families out at the orchard, the ice cream shop and was thinking that I wish I had a marriage like that. I would give anything to have my h want to go out with us as a family, Opening doors, spending his time with us.

He only hides as far away as possible from anything to do with me and d
And the only thing important to him is that tv,

I've told him I hate that he has started sleeping in garage, that I wish he would at the least sleep in our bed, but he just won't.
I guess I will struggle through this, trying to not chase scraps of attention and let his abandonment of our m not consume me.

It doesn't have to be like this, it's like he is straight sabotaging any chance at a happy m.