You are a wonderful person and you are doing great things! What a luckey man your H is, and someday he will realize this!
Quote: Although we don't want to admit, they(OW) get hurt as much as we do when all of this ends. They go through certain emotions that we went through because they put their heart out there as well. Am I justifying what they have done? No, but I am saying that they are people with feelings and with souls just like we are.
In a certain way, they were used and then left once they are done with them. They are now paying the consequences for their actions, as well as the prodigal does.
Yes I do feel empathy for some OW, but, they also knew that they were taking up with a M man. That they knew there may never be a chance for them to have a life with the man they feel in love with.
So I think I will take a "middle of the road" opinion here. Yes our H choose to take up with these women. Not all fault lies on one person here. I believe we (H, W and OW) are all to blame.
