I think it is really lame that she has been unhappy for a while and only now tells me and is not even giving me or us a chance. After 12 yrs i deserve to not be treated like this.
Also, i am fairly certain she is rewriting history a lot. I know she was happy for a lot of the time we were together and she says she loves spending time with me but doesnt feel the passion between us.
Hi Seattle, so sorry to read what you're going through. This really resonated with me, I have almost the same timeline. Have been together almost 12 years, married for 3. Felt the same way, didn't realize she was so unhappy, and wish I had seen signs or she would have let me know. I'm not even sure she knew.
I hope your meeting with your coach goes well, and we're all pulling for you.
Me:33 W:32 T 12yrs M 3yrs House, No kids 6/16/14 BD 1+yr PA disclosed 9/1/14 Requested divorce, in house S
