Hey Cathy~ I soooo understand what you are feeling.
H wanted me to buy his car. I like his car, its a good car. But SHE was in it. When I sat in it, I could feel the energy and it did not make me happy.
I couldn't drive it. I think that because we don't necessarily think of them in terms of a real person, (or at least not someone we want to see) we attach them to some object that was close to them. That object now becomes them.
YUCK!
You are doing so well on this path. I am so glad you are finding some calm and peace for YOU! You have worked so hard and it is wonderful to see that things are really changing.