I think giving to others can be a great source of joy, and you should definitely love that about yourself. Nothing wrong about that. You're still a father, so love how you handle your relationship with your kids. If giving is what you love, then maybe seek out other opportunities outside your immediate circle (volunteer at food bank, help build houses for Habitat for Humanity, etc.). Or perhaps seek out other things that bring you joy and love that you haven't tried before. Now is the time to dream for yourself. Your kids will be grown in no time. Envision what you want for your life then (independent of the situation with your W).
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!