Haven't seen Miracle yet. I think that would be too emotional for me since I love hockey, grew up in Herbies neighborhood and passed the accident site within hours of it happening. My D9 wants to see it though.
A couple of thoughts on your last few posts:
Quote: I don't know hat was going through his head, but OW is selling her bass boat, it's posted at one of the sporting good stores and H came up with the idea that he wants to buy it!! It's a good deal he said. I was stunned and said no! He just doesn't get it either, why I would have a problem with his buying her boat...hello!! I sarcastically remarked "oh so she's not fishing anymore? Hmmmm she bought it because she wanted to try something different and now she's selling it? hmmm"" I mean is my H really that blind or he just stupid?! The boat is in my H's name, also.
Two thoughts - (leaving the sarcasm out of it but I know that is just what you'd like to say not what you really say - LOL!), explain to him why it would hurt you to see this boat all of the time. Tell him it would be a reminder of something that hurt you deeply or whatever it is that you feel. Let him know that you wish you were in the position to buy him one, but maybe you can both save towards getting one.
Then you say the boat is in his name. Then you should expect her to call him because legally he has to sign off on the sale of the boat. He will need to sign the title over to whomever buys it. That is also likely to cause him to backtrack a bit if he loves the boat as much as you say.
One last thought, and this will take incredible strength on your part, but if it were me, I would offer to go with him to sign over the title. Say I now this is difficult and uncomfortable for you, but I would like to support you and be there for you to show you how much I care....
I think your H needs to hear the words and feel the support from you. You may think you are doing it already, but go for it, drop any inhibitions and fill up his cups with words and actions. Say it out loud so he isn't left reading your mind either.
Regarding the conversation that happened the other night about you caring or no, you said that you probably will tell that you care next time it comes up - but what if in the meantime he is thinking "she doesn't care, she doesn't care" in his head?
Show him you car - put a note in his pocket, his lunchbox, in his vehicle, on the bathroom mirror (in red lipstick), on the driveway in sidewalk chalk, etc. Then when he asks about it just grin and say - "well I was just making sure you knew how much I care..."
JMHO
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