Quote: There is a hidden message in what he is telling you and he may not know for sure what it is, but there is something that he is missing that he doesn't feel that you care.
Has anyone seen the movie Miracle on Ice? There's a scene in that movie where the coach makes the players do drills, over and over again, they are pretty much beaten to the ice when one players "gets it" and says what the coach wants to hear and he then dismisses the players. That's kind of how I feel about my H saying "I don't care" Something is missing from his life and he doesn't quite know what that is either.
Quote: As for your husband, there maybe nothing that you can say or do. I would highly recommend that you pray to the Lord to enter into his heart and give him the peace and the love that he is so desparately looking for. He is not going to get that from you. You can try with all your might, but there was also a void in your life that only the Lord could fill and he filled that void while you were on your journey.
Since there is nothing I can do to MAKE my H see or feel anything, praying is what I've been doing. I have been doing that daily.
The OW, I caught myself the other day praying for her she, too, is a lost soul. I'm sure she's feeling the pain I felt when H left me on top of the fact that she never got over the passing of her H.
Quote: Maybe that is what you should be sharing with your husband so that he can get the same comfort and peace that you have within you.
This is a good idea, worth a try. Other than the BB, I haven't really shared my new spirtuality with anybody. I did tell H I have found this new spirtuality so he knows, but I haven't it shared that with H.
Quote: As for your husband, there maybe nothing that you can say or do.
This is how I feel, deep down I think H is trying to find his way and the pain is getting in the way.
she, too, is a lost soul. I'm sure she's feeling the pain I felt when H left me on top of the fact that she never got over the passing of her H.
