I'm glad you have a little time....I won't take up too much today.
So, I'm doing some digging.... And trying to learn the when, what, how and why of these patterns I follow. I came across this post of yours:
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H told his mom he was going to marry me someday when he was 14 and I was 12. I think i partly married him because he adored me and I thought he would never, ever abandon me. Surprise!!!
This resonated with me on a huge level. For my H, I was "the girl". As in "the one that got away". His family has told me countless stories about things H said back in jr. high and high school, about me.
I thought he would love me forever, never hurt me, never leave me, you know. That stuff. I felt "safe". It was a sense of security in that I would never be alone again. Surprise! .
So, I know the MLC is not about me. And he may love me very much. I happen to believe he does. But that doesn't mean we could have a healthy M.
I would be foolish to ignore my end of things, why I gravitate toward certain guys, etc.
What is it you learned about you, and how did you get to that knowledge? I know we are different people with different sets of circumstances, so your answers won't necessarily be my answers. I'm curious, though, to know your perspective on why we seek what we seek.
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