Bashy, I don't really have any good advice but wanted to say I'm struggling with this myself. H is going to move out in a few weeks, and we've agreed on a four month separation before making any other decisions. During that four months there will be two kids birthdays, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, and H and my birthdays. So far we've agreed on family dinners for two kid birthdays and Thanksgiving, but none of it will involve a sleepover. I have not agreed on anything t all for Christmas yet, I want to see how I feel after he moves out and how the other events go. Good luck!
