Hey KAW,

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what if ... "I'm sorry you feel that way, but what is it about me that makes you say that?" "What do you think would be different if you felt like I cared for you?" "As I do care for you so, I want to know where the breakdown is, as its not fair to either of us if you're not sensing that I do care."



I was thinking about this this morning and that I should have said something like this and next time will. I feel like I'm doing caring things, but if that's not what H sees as caring then I guess H should tell me.

I sometimes think that H doesn't care about himself and if he doesn't care about himself wonders why I care about him I'm mind reading though.

I wish I COULD afford to buy H a bass boat, the kind H wants is very expensive. I ASSume he says this kind of stuff to get a rise out of me, to make me jealous. H would often bring up wife #2 in the same way he does OW so it's an attention getter for my H. Eventuall Wife #2 comments dropped off, H hasn't mentioned #2 in a long time. Unless it's to say how "she hurt him so badly," too. He said the same EXACT same thing to me, that he said about her when this all started-- "You don't know what she/you did to me?" EXACT words.

Cathy