New here, my fairytale gone wrong

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Spoke to our tax attorney this morning who advised that the current tax deal we were working on will fall apart if the D is final before it is settled and paid. He recommended to wait to finalize until 9-12 months when the deal is completely done. The other option is that we could do separate deals (which would cost us about $20k more) and then the D wouldn't matter. I spoke to H and advised him what I have been told and he is going to talk with the tax attorney when he is here next week.

I have also been thinking about the 11/1/2012 separation date he is listing. This would mean that the business he started (and is very successful) when he went to PA/NJ on 11/1/2012 would be considered his separate property. Depending on the value of that (or if he is willing to include it even if he doesn't "have to" based on that erroneous separation date) I may need to contest based on that alone. He also paid cash for a vehicle currently worth about $15k that I wouldn't have interest in, either, based on that date.

I guess we will see what he wants to do once he talks with the attorney and we talk about splitting assets. I won't agree to anything until I see it in writing from his attorney.