What to do when an EA involved?

[25yearsmlc]

W moved out as planned, she left me many of the essentials and a few pieces for staging for when I'm ready. I've lost all hope of reconciling this now and am going to proceed with listing the house.

Not sure why you said you could hold onto it for awhile and then retracted. Was it true or not? Anyhow, okay so you're listing it. No need to be melodramatic and say you have "lost all hope". I have 2 family members who divorced and then remarried each other a few years later. So yeah it happens.

A divorce is a piece of paper saying your old marriage died. Sounds as if down deep that is probably a good thing b/c you both wanted a better marriage than what you had, right? Okay keep that in mind.


I know it's muddying the way home for her but I just can't carry it (indefinitely) and going home to our half empty house without her there is just making me sad.



I understand.

Time to let go of my expectations and start moving forward, if she wants to come back to our marriage we'll just need to find a new house.

So what are you doing to work on the issues within You? How are the 180s going? And how about any GAL?

You still need to do all that "work" - b/c it's life enhancing, and you have some self discoveries to make, don't you think?

When we "work" on our lives, we become happier people.

So it's not like you are pitching tar on a hot roof for years, or digging graves in the summer heat...okay?

Be empowered by your ability to change and choose. Make sense?