Feels like an eternity (Mindsin - part. 3)

[25yearsmlc]

I think her wording was more about an over all attitude and not only jobs. She said

"...not treated like everything else in your life in the past, that it is a given and you don't need to work too hard to maintain it..."

Which means she felt badly treated and taken for granted, Inside the marriage.

But you already knew this, right? So nothing really anything new is here, and she seems to have taken what you said in a positive way.

Still, don't keep SAYING these things, just DO them. Words are so cheap.

Remember that she caught you 3 times having affairs, & after each painful discovery, you promised to stop.

But you went back on your word all those times.

So if she treats your words with doubt, be understanding of that.
You must begin to view these interactions as opportunities for you to BE YOUR BEST SELF.

But you really need to back off the expectations. Meaning, when you MUST communicate, be your best upbeat self, and show her the commitment you now feel towards the family, the joy you get from that, and that you expect nothing back from her.

Truly, expect nothing from her. If you get anything more than a civil response, be grateful.

This would count as a double 180 - b/c you'd be kind and upbeat towards her, without an expectation, and you would not be reactive to her not giving you more. You'd take it in stride.

THAT^^ would show change.

So, NO more pressure from you.

Make sense?