Heather, I agree w/the posters. Your employer is just that...your employer. The way that they are handling the relocation costs are pretty standard. They needs receipts for all relocation costs upon your arrival to your new position and only then will they reimburse you what they agreed upon.
As for your lawyer, I'm really surprised that you haven't been receiving monthly bills from him. When I was going through my separation/divorce, I dropped quite a bit of money, not only on draft separation papers that were never filed as well as him representing me throughout the ordeal. It was $100 per hour and each and every time a letter was drafted or a phone call, it was another chunk of change.
Stick w/your current lawyer and ask your parents for help w/the finances. If it will make them feel better, draft up a repayment plan that specifically states how much you'll pay each month and whether it's the first or last of the month. You might even want to consider a small about interest to factored in. Then have both parties sign it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
