How long has your H been "gone" with OW? Too lazy to go back and look at your sitch that and the fact that my computer is sooo slow at home.
Quote: It is the fact that my H gets to call ALL the shots right now that is also very painful -
HE feels pain, HE decides to walk, HE takes up with my friend, HE feels pain when friend dumps him, HE says we can't get back together although we are "best friends", HE decides to start with new woman, HE decides that our D will be fine through all this, etc etc..
I get fed up with this self centredness.
Your H isn't thinking right now, not thinking of anything but himself. Don't expect to this to change anytime soon. I know it does get tiring. Has your H always been a "me" kind of guy? Mine has, so it wasn't surprising. I don't expect this to change too much.
I once thanked my H for what I've been through, it made be a stronger, better person. I am thankful that I did have the chance to grow and become a better person. That the me that got lost so many years ago is back and HAPPY! I will not go back to being that person.
It helps to get to the point where you know you'll be fine either way and that our kids will be okay, to. They have to be and we have to be the one there for them through all of this madness. Cathy
