He Ran Again! What Now?

[Livnlearn]

Hello everyone

I haven't read the thread you recommended yet, but the quote -

The friendship failed and only duty remained. Duty does not make a marriage.

caught my eye.

I can see what it is saying, but I feel the duty always remains, and since it does, it is also our duty to find that friendship again, seeing as it was there in the first place!

I don't thing that walking out of a marriage without even ONCE discussing this lack of friendship, the feeling of pain etc etc on the part of the WAS is playing fair, or very mature AT ALL.

It is the fact that my H gets to call ALL the shots right now that is also very painful -

HE feels pain,
HE decides to walk,
HE takes up with my friend,
HE feels pain when friend dumps him,
HE says we can't get back together although we are "best friends",
HE decides to start with new woman,
HE decides that our D will be fine through all this, etc etc..

I get fed up with this self centredness.

Livnlearn