1) Stick with your attorney, you've already paid him part of the fee. File for divorce and for temporary support. Look into turning the house back over to the lender, unless Smokey wants it.
2) Your attorney has to eat too. It's not his job to accommodate your financial problems. Nor is it your employer's. In fact, the more you go to your employer with your financial problems, the more they're going to worry you will be a financially unstable flake. You have to stop interacting with this people like they're your parents.
3) You're going to need to borrow money from your parents for the divorce and the move. Make a budget of everything you'll need (deposits for utilities, cosigner for a newer used car that you can commute in safely, rental security deposits etc, lawyer fees) as well as a plan for how you will pay it back (X$$ per month for X months). The more you look like you have your act together and are thinking in concrete financial terms, the more likely they will be willing to help you. If they forgive the debt, great, but I would plan on paying it back. You are an adult after all, and despite their better financial positions, they don't OWE you anything. So get rid of your resentment over what they have that you don't, put on your big girl panties and make a plan.
