i learned by experience. i'm guilty of all that too. I'm trying to help you get through it easier than i did. i also had Starsky, among many others, giving me good advice. but i was too much scared to properly take it, i also thought i could ride it out and she'd come around. never happened. listen to what he's telling you.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
