Unless you're asking if you could have been *stronger* (instead of nicer), I don't understand why you feel you were wrong here. I know what it's like to have to wrangle multiple kids in a grocery store. I go once a week and buy everything I need for all our meals that week (plus snacks, etc.) for the kids. If someone came in and took any of that, I'd cut 'em. (Just kidding. I wouldn't really cut anybody. But I'd be tempted!! )
Your W's financial issues are a natural consequence of her actions and her decision to leave her M, right?
Why go out of your way to protect her from that?
Also, I'm not asking you to mind-read here, but your W took a picture of herself crying and sent it to you while she was lashing out at you in texts? It's been a while since I've read through your threads, but is she typically that manipulative? Are you afraid of hurting her feelings or "causing" her to become angry?
What's goin' on in that noodle of yours, buddy? Talk to me.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
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