BOUNDARY thing just came up....not sure how to respond.
H just sent a text, with a "need" for his piano since we close Friday. He wants help from me, the codependent-fixer-enabler....who is trying to do better.
His text:Does S18 still date (girl next door)?
Me: yes
H: I dont ever talk to them. Do you think maybe they would let me keep the piano in their garage until Saturday? The helpers I have can't help until then.
Me: I would guess they would if they can. You know (Name), the dad, though. I would say just ask him.
(Normally I would have jumped in, offered to facilitate this whole thing. I had to stop and think how not to.)
H: I dont talk to them. They pretty much avoid me.
GEE, H, I WONDER WHY??? Perhaps it's the parade of ow you've had since I left? The drama outside with your kids? The way I cried as I explained to the neighbors why my kids and I were loading a moving truck? I can't imagine.
Yeah.... None of that last part came out. He's still hanging, though, I don't know how to respond.
Things have been so calm and cordial. I don't want things to get ugly just before we close, but at the same time, I don't really care. It's not my problem, not my piano, he could have arranged this sooner, or he can find another mover to do it Friday.
H used to chat with neighbors a lot....far more than I did, when he was out working in yard, or discussing house repairs, etc. Is he just being a big chicken? I don't want to do this for him. It's not my problem. But, since I have done this stuff in the past, he is ok asking me.
We haven't had the "this was your decision and now it's your problem" conversation....
