Need to figure out how to move forward (thread #4)

[shodan]

Mr Bond...thanks for the input. I agree that it can be done but that it is harder when she is here. Then again, if she were not here, it would be easy to detach but that would not be good for our R/M either.

This morning, my W mentioned that she is trying to plan her travel for next week. She may need to be gone Tue-Fri. She is trying not to leave Tues night so she limits her travel to only Wed and Thur night, coming back on Friday. But she may have to leave on Tuesday if her meetings start Wednesday morning. I just told her to do whatever she needs to do. If she needs to be gone all week, we (the kids and I) will understand.

The ironic thing is that pre BD and A, I would support fully my W traveling for work. I would not like it but I also know that her job is important to her. I am trying to keep that mindset now but of course it is harder with the A in the air. Granted, she has not admitted to the A but has shown signs that she is not really in it fully.

Not sure what to do here except detach, GAL and be patient. My DB coach believes that my W needs to feel that I will not hold the A over her head for the rest of our lives. my DB coach also believes that my W has some deep hurt that she is struggling to get over. It could take a while for her to get to that point where she is willing to take the leap of faith to work on our M. Which brings me back full circle to detaching and GAL, which is the only way that I can survive this.