No, I don't think there's a magic bullet. I just know that she's not going to even consider coming back to me unless and until she ends her affair.

I've started a new thread here

M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...