Watto, to answer your question to me they were "together" for about one month before moving in together, lived together for 3 months and then he pursued her for 2 months. Then I went dark, took a VERY firm stand and he started making changes.

I suggest you back WAY WAY WAY off, if OW contacts you ignore her!
Let your H FEEL what being without you REALLY feels like, not having OW to comfort him.

Now it's the time to be calm, cool and make yourself unavailable

Me: 35 husband:39
Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage
Twins 5 (boy/girl)
Daughter 3
Affair bomb 2/27/14
He moved in with ow 3/13/14
OW kicked him out 6/15/14
4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction