At the beginning of this madness H did take our S to OW's. I was out of town for a much need vacation and flipped when I got back. I told him that S didn't belong over there and that unless he knew what he was doing that our S would not get involved in that situation. That I was thinking of our S's best interest and that wasn't his best interest. H had to make up his mind as to what he was doing. H would always say "he didn't know what he was doing" staying with OW or coming back. I held strong the whole time, OW didn't like it, but that was too bad. S just thought his dad was gone a lot.
Has you D met the OW and how old is your D? I would not let you D stay over night there, but that's me. Children need to have at least one parent who is stable and can do what's in the best interest of the child.
OW? Yes, her H died a year ago last September. When H first hooked up with OW it was probably oh about 5 months after H had died. OW was a pity party I'm sure and played my H like a violin. But, now H is seeing her real colors.
Oh and by the way, OW bought a bass boat a couple months after H had moved in with her...hmmm...H couldn't figure out why...she said she wanted to try something different. Could it maybe have been because my H used to have a bass boat and the fishing equipment? She received an insurance payment when her H died..so she had some money to spend. She also bought H a very expensive gun cabinet right before Xmas. H demanded she take it back.
OW is nuts, I believe and probably more codependent than I am..or was...
