I'm not really in a rush, I just want to know if there's anything I'm perhaps missing that I could work on more and grow more. Not really about getting H back so much but more of a thorough self-analyzation. Does that makes sense?
Are you in counseling? What did forgiveness look like in your childhood? For many of us, it's a learned skill b/c we did not see it growing up.
I suggest you do some thinking there b/c I doubt you are as far as you need to be (who is?).
It's nice when you and your h can have conflict free times. But life WILL give you some conflicts so what will happen then? How will YOU handle it differently?
When you are in the midst of an angry moment, it's hard to react in a new healthier way. Practice...seriously, practice. Find a good positive role model to help you replace the Things "NOT TO DO" in fights, with Things TO DO" in fights.
it's well and good to know what not to do but in the heat of the moment if you have not replaced the old behaviors with new better ones, you may easily revert to an old pattern.
My guess is that would send your h off to the hills forever. Forgiveness work is a life lesson we could all use. I think it's a concept barely taught to us though in church we'd hear about it. No one really said HOW to do it though...
Just a thought...
I'll have to read your thread again to get more specific. More later...
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