H Ok, I'm assuming I'll stay clear. Me: Why? H: They're your friends - and I want to honor that and it's your weekend with D. There's no reason for me to be there. Even though I'd love to meet [baby], it seems like a social mine field. I'll be out and about anyway.
This made me think that he's mentally separating our friends already so maybe all my positivity is misguided. These are our best friends in the whole world. H and I have successfully hung out as a couple (sort of) with other friends who are less important but he can't bring himself to hang out with our best friends and their new daughter?
I may be way off, but I saw this as a positive. He came to you, and basically was asking you if he could be around when your friends were in town. He was IMO, looking for you to ask him to come along. Think of it this way. You are having a house party, and there is that one guy who arrived early and is just hanging around the food. He hovers and hovers. He will not dare take a bite, but is waiting for you as the host to insist he grab something. He may even refuse a time or two. But he wants that food.
I would reply in a fashion you suggested. And I would do it sooner than later. Replying now is replying to his inquiry. Replying on Friday is YOU asking.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
