I must be blind, I don't see a mention of gay people.
I'm also unfamiliar with the situation but it does sound like you gave up hope. A year is tough, just reached mine myself. It's a tough milestone.
The email probably was a bad idea. If she wants to file, let her file. Don't contact her unless you're ready to do something yourself. It's tough, really tough but it's part of the process.
Resentment occurs when we aren't doing what we need to care for ourselves, though we expect others to do it for us.
