"W home, we are around each other more, which seems to have eliminated any benefits that I had from detaching"

You can detach while your W is there physically. Detachment doesn't mean that you forget about the WAS or don't acknowledge them.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER