Bob you are very frustrating. We are not trying to trick you we are trying to help you.
Do you realize you have something everyone on this forum wants? You have a W who doesn't believe in D. I encourage you to read other posts to recognize the value of this gift.
If your W doesn't believe in D and you don't want a D...then who is putting these thoughts in your head? Again, I ask: Do you have a support group who is "cheering" on a D?
If they are--You have a very destructive support group. Get away from them and find a support group that believes in saving your marriage. If you do not want a D you need to stop your destructive behavior. You do not have a WAW situation. I beg you to read your earlier posts.
I fully accept yelling hurts your feelings. No one enjoys being on the receiving end of a screamer. But I fear you believe screaming and physical violence is only one way to abuse a person.
I wish I could help you recognize the emotional devastation you caused your W. I wish I could help you recognize the emotional devastation you allowed others to cause your W. I wish I could help you see the woman you have shown me through your posts.
She doesn't seem abusive. This woman seems ethical, loyal, spiritual, and very committed to her marriage. She also seems hurt, bewildered, angry and disheartened.
