The two best mindsets I've seen for successful DBing when there's an affair involved, are The Stockdale Paradox . . . and the "You're already dead" scene from Band of Brothers.

Both very powerful if you can wrap your brain around their concepts.


Starsky


M57 W 57; D30 D28 S24 S20 GD7 GD2 GD1 GD5m GD1m
BD 5/07; W's affair 5/07-8/07

At the end of every hard-earned day, people gotta find some reason to believe. (Bruce Springsteen)