Thanks gg and twinmom, just wanted to hear others stories when it comes to ow, twinmom, if it's not too disrespectful to ask, how long where your h and ow having the a? so far for me, H has been with ow for at least 6 months, about the time we have been s. just seems to be going from strength to strength... and its the little things that irk me, like him buying her flowers, him entering a Fb competition to win a trip to USA for two, her asking on Fb who are taking, him responding with pack your bags.... I know it's silly but it annoys me and it stings. haven't had much contact with h over the past few days, doing my best to detach and pma, H was going to look after the boys the other night so I could go to dance class, I ended up canceling as I got slammed with a monster headache, H seemed concerned, thanked him for his concern, left it at that. He then sent texts later that night, just silly conversation, and all I could think was if you're out for the night (he definitely wasn't with ow) why are you texting me, why not the ow?
sigh...
things are going really well with the life coach though, and I'm learning so much about myself