The best thing is to do nothing; don't ask your H to leave. "act as if" he is a renter, if you have to. Stay out of his drama and live your life.
I like snoddery's post to you and felt like it could also apply some to mine. My H has been depressed for months; the sadness in his eyes the way he holds himself. We can't help them and they don't want us to show them pity or sympathy. It only makes them feel worse.
The best is to go about your business and don't get sucked up in his drama. Hard to do, but I know you can do it; you have it in you!
I have learned much going through this journey; we are just a bystander in all this. We can only be there if they choose to invite us in once in a while. I go in with no expectations, you should too.
Some men come out and some don't, we can only hope that our H do, and that's all. We must rebuild our lives and leave a door open, just in case they do come back. Sometimes it is not possible to leave that door open. Sometimes, we move too far ahead without our S's. We will just have to see. Only time will tell. Most times our H's take too long and we move on permently without them, this is not our fault. Bridges are burnt that should have, and there is no way to reconnect.
Take care, do the best you can! You are not alone, we are here for you!
