I am overly verbal as well. If you must talk, I am learning that "You are doing what you need to do right now. I am doing the same" works fairly well when delivered calmly.

My DB coach offered me this: You have to mean well for communication to be any good. Assume she means well, too, even though what she is doing is very hurtful.

Me: 43 XW: 43
T15 M14
D21, SS15, S11, D8
BD: 8/6
EA / possible PA discovered 9/29
D final 10/20