Wife having emotional affair part 2

[PatientMan]

But here is a good question. What do you do when she tries to get the control back? Let it just roll off your back.

Yes, you always ignore bad behavior and don't reward it with attention. Just keep working on you; ensure your boundaries are reasonable, in place, and enforced.

If she wants space and time, give her space and time. She shouldn't be asking for space and time and then coming to you to vent - that isn't reasonable. If you aren't clear about what she wants, ask her be clear. Then respect what she says, in agreement or not. But don't cave.

And PMA the crap out of her. Being kind and positive is not the opposite of having clear boundaries and only responding to certain types of behavior. This is a learned skill, and it can be mastered.

Here is your new mentality: nothing that she says or does bothers you in the slightest. She does not have the ability to affect you emotionally anymore. You are cool as a cucumber. You are an emotional rock. Do you understand this?

Also, make it a habit to read your rules every day until they become habit.

-PM