My problem is she is still making contact with OW secretly but my DB coach said to ignore that for now and work on me.
Telk, here's my opinion. Please understand that I'm not a vet, I'm relatively new and stumbling myself, but I do have an opinion. Listen to the coach. He/she didn't say you have to live in an open M forever, but advised ignoring it for now. For the sake of your kids, look over this for a little longer and take the time to assess what exactly YOU need to be working on. You may get to a point that the A is a deal-breaker for you, but that doesn't have to be decided right now. Focus on you.
