Getting Started - Little Questions - Noob

[Telk]

Thanks bdub for your response.

I have confronted the A. I thought all was well and things changed for good. Things were going well then I could sense W pulling away and disconnect. I knew something was up and then I found out last week that she has made contact again with OW. I am guilty of all the spying and monitoring.

I dont want an open marriage by no means. I am just in state where I am confused b/c I want to protect my kids. Yes I want the W too but I understand what your saying.

My confusion comes from she claims to want to work things out or at least few weeks ago she did and even willing to go to a marriage retreat. However this A is like a drug to her. So I look at it as she has an addiction and I want to help her. Maybe that is my in-denial and fog I am seeing.