I guess I'll cite Sandi, in response to your questions of late.
15. When at home with your spouse, (if you usually start the conversation---then don't, wait for him/her) then, be rather scarce or with your words, but don't sound rude or too short like you are mad. If your spouse asks what's wrong....just say "nothing" and have a pleasant expression on your face. Keep it short and simple. Don't get into an argument! Stay polite and don’ t act like you are pouting. Use poise and class. This does not mean to act like you aren’t speaking, but don’t be overly talkative.
Some new words I have been carrying around: Nobility Lift Joy Life Class Responsibility Deliberate Stinky (because, too serious is never the right answer all the time)
I would say that approaching you in bed for a rub when you're already asleep might be a good time for you to say "Please ask me tomorrow when I've had some rest, or before I'm already crashed."
I told my wife when she attempted to bait me into solving a problem for her (that she could then argue about) involving lawyers that when we were married, her problems were mine, her hurts were my hurts. But now, she is leaving me, and she has taken that responsbility with her. After blowing up at me, she came back hours later to apologize.
As for the date...I would respond with some open ended questions. "Tell me more about what you have planned." And be prepared to say "No, thanks" if she wants anything other than childcare discussion or some other necessary convo. No romanticism. We're talking Denny's here.
My two cents, anyway.
Me: 43 XW: 43 T15 M14 D21, SS15, S11, D8 BD: 8/6 EA / possible PA discovered 9/29 D final 10/20
